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How to Relax

Ben Heim
4 min readFeb 19, 2023
Photo by Roberto Nickson on Unsplash

I’ve noticed a weird pattern.

Despite knowing that going on my phone in the morning will not in any way improve my day and, in fact, it may actually worsen it, I still find myself scrolling within 10 minutes of waking up.

My phone is addictive. Social media is an endless hole of more content. But this is a me problem, not just a phone problem: when I take time to rest, I spend my rest time exactly how I shouldn’t.

The Paradox of Rest

I think humans are pretty bad at determining what actually is restful and what is attractive but energy-draining. Take vacations for example. While appearing to be a wonderful time to regenerate and prepared to work again, they often leave us feeling more tired.

We spend hours on our phones, thinking that this is the solution. To turn our brains off and scroll. And, hours later, when we finally go to bed or have to do something, we fail to acknowledge that what we just did is ruining our life. We didn’t recharge. We drained.

Hustle, Bustle, Slow the Fuck Down

For most of my life, I thought I wanted to live in a city. I loved the rush of New York. The way people were going from place to place. They had somewhere to be!

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Ben Heim
Ben Heim

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